It was the stormy time of Paris Fashion Week when S decided to turn my world upside down. Or so I used to think when thinking about engagement and, ultimately, about marriage, that my world, my habits, my life will change forever. But it was a relaxing dinner with the wonderful 56th floor view of Tour Eiffel, holding hands, delicious food and lots of champagne. I guess he needed more than I did, because I had no idea what was going to happen. After hilarious adventures, from the security control at the entrance of the building, when the ring started the alarm and S turned red, close to fainting or the talkative couple sitting next to us, making S nervous and annoyed about his lack of intimacy to the changing of tables and confusing the restaurants’ employees, he popped the question: Will you marry me? And that was the moment when my body froze. But it wasn’t fear. Nor emotions. It was something between “Oh My God, I am going to burst into tears and I so don’t want these people see me like that” , “I am so not properly dressed for this moment”, “Why the f*** am I crying?” and the last, but not least “Him kneeling in front of me is the most romantic and beautiful declaration of love I have ever seen/heard.” By this time, S kept repeating the question, because I was not able to say a thing with my tears choking me and the approving nod finally came. After hugging and kissing him…it was more hugging because, in a way, I wanted to hide myself into his arms, I’m not that comfortable with showing my emotions in public :)), I was finally able to say a proper YES and actually look at the beautiful ring he gave me.
Did you know there is also a phobia of committment, called gamophobia? I mean, how much time people spent trying to diagnose, to analyze, to prevent all sorts of things about marriage, relationships, men and women? Instead of thinking and rethinking, they should start doing, feeling and understanding. Love, couples, relationships are based on feelings and real life, not on statistics and analysis. If you get along with someone, it is because your energies just match and if you believe in faith, you were meant to be together. As long as it will last. But I don’t think someone can come up with a physical theory to explain something that can’t be explained. See the big picture, stop creating categories and thesis to confrunt your own fears.
I never thought I would be the marrying type, I was also very aware that I may be suffering from gamophobia (it seems I’ve found the reason where to put all my frustrations and fears). Yes, I was always the relationship type of woman, never having an one night stand, but I could not figure myself out as having the wife potential. And I was ok with that and I was even ok with ageing all by myself, with some dogs around and lots of shoes, not thinking I could find a man that could understand me.
But the surprise is that I am also ok right now, with a ring on my finger and with lots of people being more enthusiastic and aware about my engagement than I am. “Ooo congrats, now you have to think about the wedding, the dresses, the location, the babies, the babies’ names, the babies’ future bla bla bla” , “Oh, I am so excited about your engagement..even though, be careful, X and Y, W and Z also had a very beautiful relationship; but that was before getting married. After that, everything changed”, “Now that you are engaged, you should pay more attention to the clothes you are wearing, you have to be more serious, you know? Now you are engaged, soon to be married and you have to be more responsible”. I think the problem is not the thought of spending your whole life with one person, is the terrifying challenge of handling all these reactions that put so much pressure and tension on the couple.
Engagement and marriage should not be a must, nor a problem. They happen when they are wanted and when the moment is propitious, all things fall into place. When there is fear, anxiety, indecision, there will always be more reasons to fail than to win that relationship. When I said that YES, it was like saying yes to going to a walk or eating an ice cream, I didn’t feel it is the YES that is changing my life, it was natural and effortless. Like everything in a relationship should be. Like me wearing this see-through dress on Barcelona’s streets, encouraged and photographed by my one and only fiancè, who is strongly against this kind of exposure :))
Besides the fact that any other bag will just not fit your wardrobe anymore.
The fact that, when in Paris for the Fashion Week, I stayed near the biggest Louis Vuitton shop worldwide seemed like an obvious sign to me that I should overcome my shopping limits and just go for it. I was never a huge fan of those intensively branded bags, but the genius talent of the newest designer, Nicolas Ghesquière, made me fall in love with their new take on fashion.
But God, have I ever expected what it was about to come! The first time I wore my brand new LV bag was to Iris Apfel’s opening exhibiton and I don’t know if it was my unbelievable charm, my outfit or the fact that I was wearing a piece from their latest collection, but Miroslava Duma stared at me from the moment I entered Le Bon Marché. Yes, yes, we were both invited to the same event. It was then I realized what a huge responsibility I have when wearing this bag: straight back, watch my step, friendly smile, always check my posture and my gesture because everyone was staring. What, you thought it was that simple? You may say it is just a bag, like I used to believe, but no!, it is an eye catcher, it is like I am walking with a huge spotlight above my head, I can actually hear the Ohhs and Ahhs when I’m passing someone and, suddenly, everybody seems to be my friend.
Needless to say that every luxurious bag is a real investition because it simply goes with every piece of clothing and every occasion, but it is also an investment in your self confidence. Believe me, at every event I went, people couldn’t stop staring at me and at my bag and I could see all sorts of questions coming out of their eyes. It was like I was covered in gold and diamonds and they just couldn’t explain who I am and how on Earth can I have the guts to look so relaxed?
Oh…and with the right craziness and outfit, the bag is like the cherry on top to be a show stopper(see the images below:))
The era of skinny jeans is gone and thanks God, because I was so tired of seeing all sorts of relief areas afflicting my sight. Yes, they may have been a safe choice of pants, but as shocking as it may sound, they didn’t look good on everybody. Regarding the wide leg pants, well, this is a whole new convenient and loveable story. Women are still afraid to style them, as it may seem a hard trend to adjust to real life and real bodies but I, with my voluptuos hips and not that long legs, took a leap of faith, tried the widest version I could find and came up to unmask some myths created around them.
- Wide leg pants are not for short girls. FALSE
Petite girls may find it difficult to see this trend adjusting to their size, but girls, wide leg pants could not be more appropriate and flattering for you. It is all about the length and the widht of the pants. You should want to choose the just above the ankle version, not a inch higher or lower or the very long version, that covers your shoes competely and with a medium looseness. If you want to wear them with heels, you can pair your wide leg pants with a sleek shirt, even though it is not my favorite combination or my honest advice. But, when business dress code is asking for it, you can give it a try. Otherwise, you can go crazy and pair them with a loose top that covers your bottom a little and moves nicely around your body. Don’t be afraid you are going to look shorter, it’s all in the length of the pants –> just above the ankle, don’t forget! and, of course, the high peep toe heels should also do the work.
2. Wide leg pants can be worn only with high heels. FALSE
It is all in the length and the width of the pants. The taller you are, the wider and longer the pants can be. Otherwise, girls, you can wear them with loafers, sneakers, high heels, mules, slippers, anything but those chunky paltforms. For those, yes, you need really skinny long legs.
3. Wide leg pants make you look fatter. FALSE
Worn with a fit top, yes, they emphasize your hips and your waist, but in a flattering way, creating a beautiful balance between your shoulders and your hips. Otherwise, if you are not that comfortable with showing off your feminine curves, like I am for example, you can wear them with a loose top, longer or just at your waist. The fitting on your hips is really important. When buying wide leg pants, be sure you first check your fitting on your hips, before checking the waist or the length. These are adjustable.
2014 was the year when sneakers began to slip into our wardrobes and it couldn’t feel more easy going, comfortable and versatile. It may have taken us a while to actually wearing them non stop and with everything, like most of the people do it today, but I think it was the perfect timing for this sporty wave to come into our lives, to losen up a little bit. But, as looking at my shoe closet and seeing so many pairs of sporty footwear, I think it is time for a change.
Without being too predictable, I feel that 2016 is the year when masculine shoes will be the hit, especially the slippers. And, oh my, I have so many reasons for you to just go and grab yourself a pair as we speak!
Alessandro Michele started this histeria with the furry version of the classic leather man slippers and, to be honest, I wasn’t too confident this trend will actually be embraced on the street. I mean, really, Peg Bundy used to wear her furry heeled slippers with all sorts of outfits and nobody thought she was a trendsetter. But it seems I was wrong and everybody loved it. And before trying on a pair of H&M Conscious Exclusive slippers which, by the way, will be available in stores from 7th of April, I couldn’t understand why. Now I do have a feedback:
1 – No effort when putting them on or off.
2 – With a little bit of heel, they put at the corner any pair of sneakers –> comfort + style = yes, I want them now!
3 – Yes, be careful to hydrate and keep clean your feet, any imperfection can make you look slouchy.
4 – Sneakers may come in different colors and prints, but the shapes are quite the same; imagine that slippers have all sorts of embroideries, drapings, fabrics and shapes!
5 – Wear the most random outfit with a pair of slippers and you will look stylish and fashionable no matter what; or choose to cool down a much too sophisticated look, like I did and you will never feel overdressed.
H&M Conscious Exclusive slippers – available from 7th of April